Thursday, 1 September 2016

Dancing Through Life's Lessons: Soul Retrieval

Hello, lovelies. I hope the month of August has treated you well. It definitely has for me. I am so excited to share the final installment in my Life Lessons “Soul Series”. The life lessons from July and August have been leading up to today’s post.
First, we learned about our Shadow Selves and how detrimental they can be to our psyche. Next, we learned about Soul Loss and how to overcome it. Finally, we will be learning how to retrieve the part(s) of our soul we have lost, in order for us to be complete and whole again. It's quite a lot process and takes many months or even years to complete. I am still working on retrieving parts of my Soul I lost when I went through a serious depression stage in 2014 (which I explain later). So let’s begin.

“Just like a human foetus, while in the uterus, retrieves and assimilates the components that allow its physical body to become whole and fit to emerge into the outer reality, the third dimension serves the purpose of shamanic pregnancy, which is about retrieving and integrating the fragmented pieces of the soul, finally giving birth to the multidimensional self.” ~Franco Santoro

Beneath most headaches is a heartache. It’s a natural protective mechanism of ours to think our way around wounds instead of feeling our way through them. In this day and age, we just want an escape. It is said that whenever we suffer a physical or emotional trauma, a part of our soul flees the body in order to survive the experience. With every cut and wound, whether it be physical, mental or emotional, our essence and vitality grows weaker. This is called Soul Loss.
Today, you’re going to learn how to recover the shattered pieces of your soul so you can become whole and complete again.

What is Soul Retrieval?
In Some countries, whenever a person gets injured, someone else whispers a prayer to them. It is said that the prayer was to get their Soul back In shamanic cultures, Soul Loss is understood to be a spiritual illness. In other words, when a part of our soul fragments, all kinds of emotional, physical and mental diseases occur from the diminishment of our life force energy. It is therefore seen as vital for parts of the soul to return back to wholeness again.

Nine causes of Soul Loss
In psychology, Soul Loss is known as dissociation, or the splitting from reality in order to survive a traumatic experience. This is caused by Core Wounds from childhood, that can affect us later on in life, especially during adulthood when you have a wife and kids. 

Some examples of Core Wounds are:
1. You enter relationships in the hopes of finding what you lack inside in the other person (i.e. you want to “feel complete”).
2. You often feel inadequate, and you have the following thoughts: “I am not enough,” “I am incomplete,” “I am unlovable,” “I don’t count,” “I am imperfect,” “I am powerless,” and “I am bad.”
3. You constantly feel a sense of abandonment, resentment and/or betrayal.
4. You have a perfectionistic attitude towards life (i.e. you gain your self-esteem from the outcome of your actions instead of the intention behind your actions).
5. You suffer from chronic anxiety. This comes as a result of anticipating the emotional pain of being found unworthy, which deep down you think is true.
6. You repeat the same old mistakes in relationships. This is because you are trapped in a habitual mindset and don’t feel courageous enough to make a change.
7. You find happiness in your misery because it’s a source of attention in the form of sympathy from other people.
8. You have a strong Shadow Self
9. You behave in dishonest/inauthentic ways that are not true to the person you really are. You behave in this way to gain the acceptance of others.
10. You feel numb inside. You feel a sense of meaninglessness and disconnection from the world around you. This is the ultimate defense mechanism: feeling nothing.
11. You are your own worst critic (i.e. you constantly remind yourself how much of a “loser” or a “failure” you are).
12. You always feel like an outcast, and you can never quite fit in with anyone. Instead of appreciating your uniqueness and seeing it as an opportunity, you see it as a curse.

So what causes Soul Loss?
1. Any form of abuse, e.g. sexual, emotional, physical or mental.
2. An event of prolonged grief, pain and fear that made you feel helpless or impotent.
3. Deep-seated addictions e.g. substance dependency.
4. A near-death or out-of-body experience.
5. Being forced to act against your morals.
6. An experience of intense rejection or abandonment.
7. Witnessing the unexpected death of someone.
8. A sudden and shocking accident.
9. Entering a relationship without strong boundaries of Self (resulting in an unhealthy relationship and losing your personal power).

       Soul Loss happens to help you, not to hurt you. It’s a natural protective mechanism. However, every wound must be healed. If we don’t heal wounds like this we are left with a chronic feeling of unwholeness. Eventually, we can suffer from chronic issues such as anxiety, depression, physical and mental illnesses as a result.
An example of Soul Loss can be found in countries that frown upon expressing emotions, like anger, for instance.  A child who gets in trouble for being angry will quickly learn that it’s an unacceptable emotion and showing it results in punishment or with drawl of love by their parents. What happens to this anger, you ask? It is suppressed and for this reason, Soul Loss plays a huge role in creating our Shadow Selves

Why does the Soul Fragment?
You know how you become unconscious when you’re experiencing immense amounts of physical pain, in the same way, your soul is wise and knows its limits. Your soul knows what it can and can’t handle, so it leaves your body as a survival mechanism to protect itself from feeling the fullness of pain. 
This splitting of the soul only becomes an obstacle when the pieces aren’t actively retrieved. This is what leads to chronic depression, suicidal tendencies, post traumatic stress syndrome, addictions, immune deficiency problems, and grief that refuses to heal. 
However, the process doesn’t end when we retrieve the parts of our soul we’ve lost. Once we’ve recovered parts of our soul, we must then learn how to integrate them back into our lives in order to recover the vital power, potential, and energy they possess.

The Soul Retrieval Journey
Just like Dante’s Inferno and the Seven Levels of Hell, when we are in the process of retrieving our soul we may encounter strong, harsh energies that manifest them through the archetypal images of monsters, ghosts, vampires, and dragons. These are the guardians of the Soul, or in psychotherapy, they are known as "defense mechanisms of the psyche." We must overcome these with the help of our spirit helpers, or people who have helped us through a tought time in the past in order to persuade the soul part to come back. Spirit helpers can be a parent, friend, youth pastor and even God Himself. 
The easiest way to retrieve missing parts of your soul without the need of a psychotherapist or psychoanalysts is by meditating and reliving the incident that left you broken. Here's how to do it.

1. Find a quite place where you won’t be disturbed. For some this might be the place where said incident happened.
2. Think about what happened, what was said, what was done, how people (including yourself) reacted and so forth.
3. Let each emotion enter and leave your body. It is okay to swear, cry, scream etc. 
4. Now say to yourself, “I accept what happened to me was to make me stronger as a person. And now that I have that missing part of my soul back, I am stronger and I can help people who’ve gone through something similar.

And that’s it. There’s no fancy hypnosis done by a therapist or anything. You’re on your way to feeling whole and complete again. It’s okay to feel pain and exhaustion after doing this. Go to bed and sleep for the rest of the day if you want.
A personal example of this is after I lost someone who means a lot to me when I was 17, I was in so much pain; physically, mentally and emotionally. I was in a state of being comfortably numb for months. I couldn’t dance. I couldn’t sing. I cried myself to sleep for nights on end. I was infuriated that this person was ripped away from my family. It took me months before I was ready to retrieve the parts of my soul I had lost. The process for me was watching the four episodes of Private Practice that started the depression I went through. (S5E19 “And Then There Was One” - S5E22 “Gone Baby Gone”). When I watched those episodes, I didn't hold any feelings back. I cried, I screamed, I prayed. It’s been a continuous process for me, as I still haven’t fully recovered the parts of my soul I lost during that incident. But I know, with time, I will be whole and complete again. What really helps me on a day to day basis is knowing that this person is always watching over me.
Another example I can give is in the 2014 movie Maleficent. Maleficent’s wings were a huge part of her and when Stefan betrayed her and cut her wings off, she lost a huge part of herself. She wasn’t herself after that and that’s why she became “evil”. Maleficent is not evil, it’s her Shadow Self that is evil. And the betrayal by Stefan is what brought out her Shadow Self. Maleficent didn’t become herself again until Aurora freed Maleficent’s wings and returned them to her during the end of the film.   
                                  She made broken look beautiful and invincible.
                                  She walked with the universe on her shoulders
                                       and made it look like a pair of wings.

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