Wednesday, 25 January 2017

Conversations with Felicity: Why I Am A Feminist

"I'm a feminist. I've been a female for a long time now. It would be stupid not to be on my own side."
~Maya Angelou

     Hey everyone! I hope you all are having a fabulous week. I definitely am for sure. I saw Underworld: Blood Wars on Sunday and absolutely loved it. It's definitely my favorite out of the series so far, even though, in comparison to the other four, there is more action and less story in this one. Aside from Selene, Semira has to be my favorite character but that's a whole other story.
Anyways, on to the agenda for today's post. It's a very controversial but due to the unfortunate events of Trump's Inauguration, I think it's necessary. The days leading up to and after he became president of the United States, I've had to think a lot about what I stand for and how to act on it. After a lot of research, and thought I have finally come to the decision that I am a feminist. (And no, don't get the idea that I go braless or that I don't shave, those are just stupid stereotypes. Wether or not a woman shaves or wears a bra is HER choice and HER'S alone).

What kind of feminist are you?
     Now, I know you must be asking, what kind of feminist are you? I am a liberal feminist as well as an intersectional feminist.  I believe in a societal change will make women and men equal. God created women and men with equal dignity “Let us make humankind in our image, according to our likeness; and let them have dominion” ~ Genesis 1:26. I believe that "womens rights" applies to EVERYONE regardless of race, sexual orientation, color of your skin etc.
     I believe that women are just as deserving as men; sometimes we women have to work ten times as hard to get there and even then that is not enough. Women, especially in the film industry, are portrayed as the weaker sex and I am so sick of that. It's only since the past sex years or so did "women power" become a huge thing (think Katniss Everdeen). Until you men have dealt with period pain as well as the pain of childbirth, then we can talk about who the weaker sex is.
     I believe that if a women is a neurosurgeon or even...President in the United States they should have the same amount of pay as their male colleagues. Same thing applies to male and female principal dancers of a ballet company.
     I also believe that men should get lifetime imprisonment without parole for sexual harassment or domestic violence rather than just a slap on the wrist. And if a girl gets raped and wants an abortion, she should have it and people shouldn't be assholes to her about that. She's going through enough hell so just shut up and leave her alone.
     I truly believe that EVERYONE regardless of your income or social status should have affordable healthcare. Did you know that only 40% of people seek treatment for a mental health disorder and 60% do not? That is because of how expensive seeing a therapist or getting medications can be out of pocket. If there was affordable health care for EVERYONE, I think those numbers would drastically change.
     Let's say Guy X sleeps around a lot. That's seen as a standard in our society but when Girl Y sleeps around she is labeled as a whore. Talk about a double standard! 
     I also believe that everyone is equal. It doesn't matter if you're part of the LGBTQ community or you're a homeless woman on the street. Everyone is equal no matter what because at the end of the day we're all human beings.
     All that aside, the one thing I believe with all my heart is that a women should never be seen as a sexual ornament for men. I see it all the time when women are dress coded at school for something a silly as a collarbone showing because it's "distracting to a man's education." Well what about her education? Isn't her education important? If you're that worried about women "distracting a man's education", then all schools, private, public or whatnot, should have uniforms. End of discussion.

How can go to a Christian University and be a feminist?
     As some of you may or may not know, I attend a Christian University. Now most people believe that feminism and Christianity can't mix because of issues such as pro-choice v. pro-life etc. But, actually it can. Here's how:

1. As I stated earlier, God created women and men with equal dignity, as I already quoted.
     You and I have equal dignity because of that (Genesis 5:1-2). According to, Relevant Magazine, "Male and female equally reflect God as unique persons; neither is superior. When we treat others with dignity, we value God’s image in them. Mistreating others is mishandling God’s masterpieces." 

2. Men and women are meant to benefit each other.
     In Genesis 5:1-2 it says that, "When God created mankind, he made them in the likeness of God. He created them male and female and blessed them. And he named them “Mankind”when they were created." Women and men were meant to complete each other not compete with each other. A women is to help a man and a man is to help a women. They are EQUAL!

3. Humans are sinful and God calls us to fight injustice.
     For our offenses are many in your sight, and our sins testify against us. Our offenses are ever with us, and we acknowledge our iniquities: rebellion and treachery against the Lord, turning our backs on our God, inciting revolt and oppression, uttering lies our hearts have conceived. ~ Isaiah 59:12-13. There are so many injustices to fight for. And quite a few of them fall into the "Women's Movement" category. According to Relevant Magazine, "Sin is the belly of sexism, racism, classism and other forms of systemic inequality resulting in inequitable education/training/opportunity/pay; harassment; domestic and sexual violence; pornography; sex trafficking; slavery; and other crimes. As Christians, we are called to fight for justice in these areas." Isaiah 1:17 says, "Learn to do right; seek justice. Defend the oppressed.[a] Take up the cause of the fatherless; plead the case of the widow.

But what if there are Feminist things that I don't support? Can I still call myself a Feminist?
    Yes, you can. You don't have to support all the injustices to be a feminist. You can still be a feminist and be pro-life (even though you'll probably get a lot of hate from people about that). Just because you're a feminist doesn't mean you have to stand for all the issues that feminists are all about. You do you according to your own personal morals. If you think something is wrong, fight for it. And if you don't think something is wrong, you can still state why you oppose it, in a kind and diplomatic manner. You can believe whatever you want to believe and call yourself what ever you want to. You're YOU and once society changes, women will be celebrated as a unique whole not as a "servant to men" or as the "weaker sex".

So how am I acting on what I believe?
     Well, for starters, I wrote and published this blog post. Secondly, I participated in (and will participate again) in a Women's March in my hometown last Saturday. We had over 200 people in attendance and were getting periodic updates on how the other sister marches were going nation and worldwide. Did you know that 500,000 people were part of this years Women's March on Washington? That's half a million people. I have never been prouder to be in anything. Lastly, as I always do, I speak up about my believes on social media.

    Thank you all for reading this post. I know it was kinda all over the place but take it as look into the inner workings of my brain (it's a madhouse in there...but don't worry, all the best people are). I do hope you understand why I am a liberal feminist. If not, please comment below and I would be happy to clarify anything for you. Also this video by Laci Green does a brilliant job of explaining why she's a feminist and why I am too. I could have explained all that she said in this post but that would have made for a very long blog post and we all know how tedious reading long articles can get.
     Anywho, as always if you enjoyed this post, please don't forget to give it a +1 on Google+, follow me on all my social media sites and leave me a comment below why or why not you're a feminist. See you next week!

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  1. Amen to this post. I can absolutely agree

  2. It's so lovely to have a Christian woman and friend in you Felicity. This post really makes it clear that it is no sin to be a feminist. We were all made to serve the Lord in equality. Thank you for this post!
    Catherine xxx

    1. I've never heard of it being considered a "sin" to be a feminist. I've always just believed that woman and men are equal and that we should have the same opportunities as men. There's a whole speech that Emma Watson did at a UN meeting about feminism. If you're interested, here's a link
      Hope you're doing well. Looking forward to our collab.