Wednesday, 15 February 2017

Psychology Month: Emotional/Energy Vampires


      Happy Psychology month everyone! I hope you all are having a lovely month of February so far. I'm really loving my life at FPU. It's amazing school and I've made amazing friends. Since it's Psychology month I thought I would write a post about one thing I have encountered a lot...and that is emotional/energy vampires...

What is an emotional/energy vampire?
      An emotional or energy vampire is someone who literally sucks the life out of you. They are toxic and feed off of the emotions and energy of people around you. They make comments like, "Dear, you must eat more...you're so skinny." or "Stop being so melodramatic. People won't want to be friends with you if you're always dramatic like that." And then BAM! you're off your center and reconsidering your self-worth. 
Here are some of the signs to see if you've encountered an emotional/energy vampire:

1. Your eyelids are heavy, and you feel ready for a nap.
2. Your mood takes a nosedive.
3. You want to binge on carbs or comfort foods.
4. You feel anxious, depressed, or negative.
5. You feel put down.

      Being around emotional/energy vampires are especially stressful for people who are Empaths (like me) or are Highly Sensitive Person (HSP). Being an empath actually is a perk in this situation because since we feel the emotions of people around us, we can instantly find people who are emotional/energy vampires.

Five Types of Emotional/Energy vampires.
      There are many types ofemotional/energy vampires and they are also subtypes within those categorical types. To keep this post short, I'm going to go over the five main types of emotional/energy vampires and how to protect yourself from them. The five types are are: 
The Narcissist
The Victim
The Controller
The Chatterbox
The Drama Queen

The Narcissist
Description: These people are all about them. Their motto is "Me first!". They crave attention and adoration from the public. They think they are more important than everyone else and if things don't go their way, they become punishing, withholding and cold. They are dangerous because they lack empathy and have a limited capacity for unconditional love. And example of this would be "Scarlett the Starlet" from the TV show Backstage.
How to protect yourself: I honestly, would keep yourself away from people like this. Never make your self-worth dependent on them or confide your deepest feelings to them. If you have to work with a narcissist, make sure that when you talk to them, make sure you tell them the absolute truth and how everything you do together will benefit them in some way. And whatever you do, do NOT fall in love with a narcissist. If you do, your needs will never be met in the relationship because the relationship will be all about them.

The Victim
Description: These people always blame others for their problem and feel that the whole world is against them. If you try to give them advice, they will likely answer, "Yes, but.." You will most likely start avoiding them at all costs because of how constantly negative they are and because of their "poor-little-old-me" attitude.
How to protect yourself: Set limits. Be kind but firm when you set them. If someone is like this at work and wants to talk to you say something along the lines of, "I can only talk for a few minutes because I have a deadline to meet." or "I'd love to talk with you but only if we can discuss solution for your problems. Body language such as not making eye contact constantly, hands on your hips or keeping your arms crossed over your chest will help enforce what you say to them.

The Controller
Description: These people try to control everything about you and try to dictate how you're supposed to feel about everything.They'll control you by invalidating your emotions when they don't fit into their own rule book. They are very opinionated and absolutely hate it when you don't have the same opinion as them. They think they know you better than you know yourself. They might say something like, "You know what you need?" and then proceed to tell you what they think you need, whether that is actually true or not.
How to protect yourself: Never, ever, ever try to control the controller. It will never work. Don't tell them what to do, because then they will play the victim card. If they give you advice (when not asked for) the best thing to say is, "I appreciate your advice but I need work this problem out on my own."

The Chatterbox
Description: These people are very similar to The Narcissist. They aren't interested in your feelings and don't understand the concept of "personal space". You move away from them...they move closer to you. When in a conversation with them, you will never be able to get a word in because they will be constantly talking...hence the name...The Chatterbox.
How to protect yourself: As hard as it is to speak up and interrupt when someone is talking, this is essential when dealing with a Chatterbox. It's essential because they don't respond or recognize nonverbal cues. You need to be assertive. Listen to them for a few minutes and then if you have to get away, interrupt and say something like, "I hate interrupt but I have to get back home/make a phone call/use the restroom" etc.


The Drama Queen
Description: These people are always dramatic, they create drama and they literally thrive off it. A classic sentence a drama queen might say is, "I had the flu last week and almost died." If you tell them they are being over dramatic they will play the victim card. Most Drama Queens are really sensitive to criticism...
How to protect yourself: There really isn't any good way to protect yourself from a Drama Queen. The are toxic people and best left out of your life. Limit your interaction with these people as much as you can. Be as firm as you can with these kind of people, if you have to interact with them more than you'd like.
     


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4 comments:

  1. Awesome post! I found your blog through Kathryn Morgan's ballet community. You should check out my blog, gouletballet.com. I would love to maybe do a collaboration in the future!

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    1. I will definitely check out your blog. It sounds wonderful. I love meeting fellow dance bloggers. I would absolutely love to do a collaboration with you sometime. Feel free to email me at pointeballetshoes@gmail.com so we can further discuss a collaboration. Have a lovely weekend!

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  2. I love this post especially nowadays that people in my life are most of these behaviors mentioned. To be frank often times I would mostly get snappy at them possibly even feel more irritated when I feel I'm at the end of my rope of paitents. Growing in a angry household has been hard for me to be graceful and not let it bother me but I'm glad to know how to handle things like that abit properly

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    1. I'm so glad you found this post helpful. Thank you for taking the time to comment. It means a lot to me. Hope you're doing well, Melody.

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